Comments for Hedge Family Blog http://www.hedgefamily.net A blog to help me remember the small moments Sun, 04 Mar 2012 19:55:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Learning about grief and feeling it by Aaron Richmond-Havel http://www.hedgefamily.net/learning-about-grief-and-feeling-it/comment-page-1/#comment-54788 Aaron Richmond-Havel Sun, 04 Mar 2012 19:55:24 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/?p=3292#comment-54788 Alyssa, You are so strong and I admire your ability to speak honestly with your children, for expressing your vulnerability with them, for speaking to them as people and not belittling your own needs at the same time. Loss is a slow leak; how beautifully expressed. When you say you've experienced death breaking a family apart, I cannot help but think of our Aunt Deborah. Did your mom tell you that Deborah spoke to me recently, telling me how she was regretful of what happened following her death? She expressed, too, that our family will come together in powerful ways soon, in ways I could not have imagined before. I was speaking with your mom about a week ago, and she also inspired me to begin thinking differently about family. She reminded me that us cousins really do have the chance to recreate family, that we have a lot in common, and although we are geographically separated, we can make lasting bonds if only we make the effort. Thank you for bravely expressing how you feel, for opening up where, from my experience, our family has established silences as ways of coping. I hope to speak with you very soon and reiterate my desire for us to create open, comfortable, and loving spaces and relationships. Love, Aaron arichmondhavel@gmail.com Alyssa,

You are so strong and I admire your ability to speak honestly with your children, for expressing your vulnerability with them, for speaking to them as people and not belittling your own needs at the same time. Loss is a slow leak; how beautifully expressed. When you say you’ve experienced death breaking a family apart, I cannot help but think of our Aunt Deborah. Did your mom tell you that Deborah spoke to me recently, telling me how she was regretful of what happened following her death? She expressed, too, that our family will come together in powerful ways soon, in ways I could not have imagined before.

I was speaking with your mom about a week ago, and she also inspired me to begin thinking differently about family. She reminded me that us cousins really do have the chance to recreate family, that we have a lot in common, and although we are geographically separated, we can make lasting bonds if only we make the effort. Thank you for bravely expressing how you feel, for opening up where, from my experience, our family has established silences as ways of coping.

I hope to speak with you very soon and reiterate my desire for us to create open, comfortable, and loving spaces and relationships.

Love,
Aaron
arichmondhavel@gmail.com

]]> Comment on An adventure + good friends = great times! by susan http://www.hedgefamily.net/an-adventure-good-friends-great-times/comment-page-1/#comment-54786 susan Mon, 06 Sep 2010 14:14:14 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/?p=2636#comment-54786 thank you alyssa!-piper too much fun. need to go again soon! thank you alyssa!-piper

too much fun. need to go again soon!

]]> Comment on Thanksgiving with Pop by Grandma Havel http://www.hedgefamily.net/thanksgiving-with-pop/comment-page-1/#comment-54777 Grandma Havel Mon, 30 Nov 2009 16:48:05 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/?p=1935#comment-54777 Thanks so much! I printed a copy and mailed it to the Great Grandparents--I know they will be happy to see how happy all of us are under the circumstances! I loved reading about your trip and the children. Introspection is a healthy thing and for the most part, it helps us get joyful about our blessings and peaceful about things we cannot control except for our reactions to them. Love you, Mom Thanks so much! I printed a copy and mailed it to the Great Grandparents–I know they will be happy to see how happy all of us are under the circumstances! I loved reading about your trip and the children. Introspection is a healthy thing and for the most part, it helps us get joyful about our blessings and peaceful about things we cannot control except for our reactions to them.

Love you, Mom

]]> Comment on Hi, it’s me (well, with red hair) by jana http://www.hedgefamily.net/hi-its-me-well-with-red-hair/comment-page-1/#comment-54776 jana Thu, 15 Oct 2009 22:27:25 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/?p=1633#comment-54776 I love it, too! Look how much your eyes pop! Gorgeous. I love it, too! Look how much your eyes pop! Gorgeous.

]]> Comment on Hi, it’s me (well, with red hair) by Jennifer Marchman http://www.hedgefamily.net/hi-its-me-well-with-red-hair/comment-page-1/#comment-54775 Jennifer Marchman Thu, 15 Oct 2009 20:00:07 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/?p=1633#comment-54775 Looks good!! Can't wait to see your hair in person! Looks good!! Can’t wait to see your hair in person!

]]> Comment on Sibling Love by Fairion http://www.hedgefamily.net/sibling-love/comment-page-1/#comment-54772 Fairion Thu, 30 Jul 2009 22:43:26 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/?p=1278#comment-54772 As we trudge through the adoption process, my husband worries about the conflicts that a second child would bring to our family. It is moments like this though that tell me this is the right path. As we trudge through the adoption process, my husband worries about the conflicts that a second child would bring to our family. It is moments like this though that tell me this is the right path.

]]> Comment on A passion for food by Cat http://www.hedgefamily.net/a-passion-for-food/comment-page-1/#comment-54771 Cat Thu, 16 Jul 2009 07:02:42 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/?p=1265#comment-54771 Looks tasty! :) Tonight I was in a beans and rice and homemade salsa mood myself. Hope you're well! Looks tasty! :) Tonight I was in a beans and rice and homemade salsa mood myself. Hope you’re well!

]]> Comment on Feeling pissy, but I ran and that is very, very good by Jennifer http://www.hedgefamily.net/feeling-pissy-but-i-ran-and-that-is-very-very-good/comment-page-1/#comment-54770 Jennifer Mon, 13 Jul 2009 14:37:34 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/?p=1226#comment-54770 Red?!?!?!? Wow! Everyone goes red at some point.... Can't wait to see it! Interestingly enough, for the first time in 15 years there isn't a single trace of red in my hair! I dyed it black. Very dramatic...I love it. :) Red?!?!?!? Wow! Everyone goes red at some point…. Can’t wait to see it! Interestingly enough, for the first time in 15 years there isn’t a single trace of red in my hair! I dyed it black. Very dramatic…I love it. :)

]]> Comment on A Quiet, Lonely Friday Alone With My Thoughts by Cat http://www.hedgefamily.net/a-quiet-lonely-friday-alone-with-my-thoughts/comment-page-1/#comment-1917 Cat Thu, 15 Nov 2007 02:06:38 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/2007/11/09/a-quiet-lonely-friday-alone-with-my-thoughts/#comment-1917 Thanks for the insights into your life... it's rare we get a post about mommy as much as about the kids. (And speaking of the kids... Quinn looks so grown up! Wow!). Take care! Thanks for the insights into your life… it’s rare we get a post about mommy as much as about the kids. (And speaking of the kids… Quinn looks so grown up! Wow!).

Take care!

]]> Comment on I’m a Box Turtle! by Polly http://www.hedgefamily.net/im-a-box-turtle/comment-page-1/#comment-1810 Polly Thu, 08 Nov 2007 22:55:41 +0000 http://www.hedgefamily.net/2007/11/06/im-a-box-turtle/#comment-1810 your baby is SO cute! your baby is SO cute!

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