Communication and Connection
One of the thing that amazes me about having a child is what comes to light about your relationship with your partner. Chris and I have known each other a long time and I am surprised to learn that after all that time we still didn’t communicate well. A child forces a great deal of teamwork in a relationship. For each of us to be happy, we have to work together and communicate what we want and need and how we feel…and we have to this EVERY DAY because EVERY DAY is different. It takes a lot of work, but when you do it - it works so well.
I think that to some degree Tyler has gotten easier, but Chris and I are still hammering out the teamwork part. We had a great talk on Saturday and are working to make sure we both get what we need and don’t resent each other.
We needed some comic relief (oh, how we miss Dave Chapelle), so we rented the first season of Scrubs Sunday and have been watching about 3 episodes a night. We have been laughing so hard - that show is so funny!! Now that Tyler is in bed at 9pm - we can have a little couple time and do stuff like that.
Some days it does feel like hard work to be in a relationship. It sucks to have to argue and fight and figure it out, but the upside is that our relationship gets better every time. We get closer, we get stronger and are more connected. I feel so fortunate to have a partner who believes in working it out and doesn’t give up on me or us.